Beloved Community

What
Why
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How

Becoming aware of the many ways our world—its people and creation—is suffering, both concealed and outwardly observed. The first step requires an attitude that recognizes our connectivity and oneness with all of life.

“If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.”

1 Corinthians 12:26

Taking action to become self-compassionate—to actively comfort ourselves, Kristin Neff identifies these three core components:

  • Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment — being gentle with yourself as you would a good friend in a similar situation. Awareness of those thoughts that become saboteurs to loving self.
  • Common Humanity vs. Isolation — recognizing I am not the only one going through difficulties and shortcomings.
  • Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification — acknowledging your suffering but not being consumed by it.

Developing deep listening to God, self, and one-another.

Love and compassion evolve as we heal and love ourselves as we see the goodness and light within that is shining in our neighbor. We hear this message in scripture. An example is the Parable of the Good Samaritan:

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Luke 10:27

This is the work of the Beloved Community.

Joyce Rupp, Boundless Compassion: Creating a Way of Life (Sorin, 2018), pp. 26.

Christina Feldman, Compassion: Listening to the Cries of the World (Shambhala, 2005) (qtd. in Rupp 42)

Gail Straub, The Rhythm of Compassion: Caring for Self, Connecting with Society (Turtle, 2000) (qtd. in Rupp 63)

For more on Self-Compassion, see “What is Self-Compassion?” from Dr. Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion Institute.

Awareness

Seeing in the mirror both our brokenness and lovedness.

  • Bias — explicit and implicit
  • Listening to self, God, and one another
  • Naming and Claiming God-given Gifts
  • Recognizing Saboteurs
  • Living aligned with Core Values
Attitude

Shapes behavior — and obstructs or constructs paths to action.

  • Perspective
  • Emotions and Feelings
  • Components of Attitude — Affective, Behavioral, and Cognitive
  • Shaped and Formed — Conditioning
  • Listening
  • Prayerful Openness
Action

Supportive Small Groups of Beloved Community

These communities are designed to support us to grow compassion of self, one another, and all of creation.

  • Practicing compassion through prayerful listening, openness to growing self-awareness and self-compassion
  • Covenant to each other to be a compassionate presence and be truth-tellers in love when we fall short. Becoming a supportive brave space to be who we are. Allowing others to see us as simultaneously both saint and sinner in need of forgiveness and love.
  • A place to name the obstacles that get in the way of Beloved Community.
Accountability

Steps to support you to live into Beloved Community

  • Identify your first faithful step
  • Make it specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely
  • Identify who will be your accountability partner — what you will find helpful and supportive as you seek to step into Beloved Community
  • Consider what might become an obstacle for you to share with your accountability partner
  • Name how you will celebrate achieving your faithful step